Life is not a football game....

I received this status on my wall today by someone :

Lyf z lyk football....it nva rches d goal until n unless gt so many kicksss.....!


Holy Shit !!!

I have not listened to anything more crappy than this. Life is no football game and we certainly are not the football. At least I am not. And in my defense I would like to raise a few arguments :

1. There are two goals in football. So is it fine with you if you reach either of the goals? If yes, then god save you.

2. The ball never gets to choose which goal it wants to go to. It is the players on the field who decide that, which in case of life, is the society. And I don't want the society to decide for me.

3. The ball does not roll itself and reach the goal. Somebody has to kick it in there. I don't want somebody to kick me to the goal. I am fine on my own. Thank you.

4. One thing that is true about the game is that there are always two sides who want you to get to their sides. But again, the ball has no role to play there. Whoever wishes to, takes the ball.

I have been going through some really bad phases recently. And its all because of the society. You cannot eat this, you cannot do that,  women are weaker then men, you cannot have a career which is not 'respectable'.

Since birth, till death there are so many rules. Come to this world and you are welcomed by judging eyes of the society : Oh, his eyes are like his mother but his forehead is like his father. I am sure he is going to be an engineer like his father. Why don't they kill us then and there?? And they say that 'childhood is the best part of life' and then slowly pass books to us. 'How did he get 2 marks more than you? ' . 'Don't ask me. Why don't you adopt him?'. If a you get to twenties then it is time for you to get married. By thirties you should have kids, you should take care of your family and should be well settled. By forties you should make your children 'worthy' of this society. By the time you get old, just retire and expect your children to do the same. And this, my dear friends. is what is the definition of a 'perfect life' as per society. And then they tell you that this is 'your life'. Live it the way you want to. Excuse me society, may I ask how and where did you leave the scope for that?

Rules, rules and rules... There are too many of them !! I don't want rules. I just want love and support. I just want to hear that 'Don't worry dear. Whatever you decide, we are with you.' I don't want to hear that this is wrong that is right and the society does not work that way. I don't bloody care about the society. For me all that matters is my parents and my friends. This is my society and I don't want to increase the diameter any more. I don't care what Mr. XYZ would think or say at my back if I did anything wrong. Why should I? I want o make my own decisions. I am not saying I might be always right. But at least I would know in the end that it was my fault and I would not blame any one else. I had a very funny conversation sometime back. I was trying to convince somebody to let me make my own decision and this is what I got in reply, " Listen. If you make your own decisions and if they go wrong, you will blame yourself first and then you will blame us that why did you let me make that decision. But if you go as per the society and if anything goes wrong then you blame your fate that this was meant to be and God wanted this to happen." I was not in position to laugh out at that time else I would have rolled on ground and burst out laughing.

So here is my point of view. Life is like a game of football and the society is trying to make you the ball so that they can kick you and do whatever they like to. It is up to you if you want to be the football or not. I have decided. I don't want to..

So what do you decide guys....??????

Trip to dharamshala

The trip to Dharamshala got planned just like that.One fine evening as I didn’t had anything to do to pass sometime prior to dinner I ended up planning a trip to….I don’t recall now what was the initially intended destination…..but there must have been at least a dozen suggestions followed by prolonged discussions. Finally, we found that our class is just incapable of reaching consensus .Well then I forgot about it all and found 4 people walking towards my desk to inform me that they would love to go to Dharamshala .

Well our first moment of bliss was successfully boarding the Scorpio with exact timings which i gave to niks , viky and robin. I had 5 bags to carry with me excluding the laptop and speakers. It took around 7 hours to reach the destination We took a route from Una road so that we can see the historical place of Shri Guru Gobind Singh j i.e Anandpur Sahib g. After paying homage there we went on with our journey with a stop at one of the ubiquitous dhabas for an even more ubiquitous breakfast of allo parantha and dahi.. the Punjabis can never have enough..we also took a coke bottle from there so that we could have some fun shun on the way ......you know what i mean ..After leaving from there we had a stop in between ... there were beautifull mountains with a rivulet flowing under the bridge. That was really a heartthrob scenery with the water flowing down the stream. The stream and depth of water was really life threatening. We had a photo session over there as what we chitkarians , MBA batch is famous for. After spending some time over there we left for the Dharamshala.

Dharamshala is a medium-sized town peopled with friendly, soft-spoken pahadi people. The owner of the only hotel with a room to spare for us was an exception. He would not budge below 688 bucks for a sorry looking room for us. We of course didn’t took it. Then we went a head to Macleodganj and started searching for a hotel over there. In between there was a nakka by himachal police for which we have to shed 150 bucks to them for entry to Macleodganj. Finally we found a good Hotel (SKYLARK) accommodation in which we 4 people could stay. One could see in the fading light three mountain tops from the hotel, all partially covered with snow in what was a sizzling winter in Chandigarh. We took a nap of about 45 mins in hotel and then we went to mcloo market for some bird watching ;) It was full of Tibetans and foreigners . We went to recharge shop over there as robin needed bucks in his phone . I also went with him and inquired about the Rave parties . Then we came to know that there is a party in Excite club from 8 pm to 1am. And we all were really excited for the party especially Mr Robin and the time was 7:00 pm by that time so we rushed back to the hotel and had our dinner at Lotus Dhaba as we were getting late. After having the dinner we went back to the hotel room and had some pegs over there for getting into the form for party. We reached the party around 10 pm .

We entered the club and Robin was really excited after seeing the crowd over there. I saw an angel over there of that I'm sure. She smiled at me in the club. She was with his man but still giving that naughty looks to me. At that time I just finished with four sticks just staring at each other. She was really gorgeous and her dance was also very rhapsodic . We danced for almost 3 hours. Robin was dancing on the tunes of” Mittran di chatri ...” as some guys pulled him off for the dance as it was a Punjabi number .The best part in the club was that Niks performed the rap song on Chandigarh by Raj Brar and I performed “SUTTA “ in the club. After these performances all the Punjabis were on one side recognizing us and asking where you from. That was the best part. There was a formation of two groups by then Punjabis and the Tibetans group. Then the bouncer came to us and said the party is over and you people please leave...PUNJABIZ ROCKS.................! BURAH...........! Then around 2am in the morning we went to the hotel by walk and went to sleep.

The next morning we set out for Bhagsunath temple, the Dalai Lama temple , Dal lake, St. George’s Church and the Triund which lies at the foot of Dhauladhar at a height of 2827m.. On getting up I realised that others were still sleeping and I went out for a stroll. Macloedganj has a kind of something unique in its air, a kind of “hereness”(the feeling of being here completely) which gets on your nerves if you go for a solitary walk and you tend to get diverted towards routes which otherwise only a child would have selected, the ones leading nowhere.

So, by the time I was back all were ready for the day and we went to a waterfall, the Bhagsunath temple,the Dalai Lama temple where a discourse by His Holiness was scheduled but we reached a little too late,St. George’s church and the Dal lake which turned out to be the “dull” lake as there was no water in the lake.

Afterwards, we were planning to go to the Triund stretch in the night but some paanwala started telling us the stories that it’s really very risky going there in the night. There are wild animals in the night . But still i had the inner thought of going then he told us that about 15 days back there was a bear attack over there on the electrician. That made me change my mind a little but still i managed to get the torch and knife for the trekking stuff. But when he told us that there are also cheetah’s available in the stretch in the night. That made us change our mind completely as we can’t bear one cheetah of our college how could we have beared that cheetah on the trek. So the plan got changed and we took some snacks and went back to hotel in the night.

We switched on the lapi and made the suitable arrangements of drinks with the snacks and movie “DIL Dosti E.T.C” was there with the drinks. Sheeshpal this time joined us for the drinks and movie. Robin was high this time. 1 Peg ...2 Peg ....3Peg... 4 Peg......... and the number was just going on for Mr Robin . After the movie got over Robin was full on. Then we played some songs on the lapi with full volume of the speakers with the woofer. And the first song was like this “Beedi jallaile jigar se pyar” The kaloli song had loads of fun in this song. Then came the Robin’s favourite one “Jatt di Sharab lalkare mardi” Robin was making full lalkare on it. Then robin got sentimental after the dance session got over. And told us about his life and all. We were surprised to know that he was BKL in past life just kidding . Then we went on for the gueris in mclo in the night. That was also a fun. We went to dinner at Hot Spot in the night around 12:30 am and guess what the spot was really hot with the hot chicks over there...lol. We had our dinner over there and then went back to hotel and went to sleep.

The next morning was headed for Palampur . We got up by 6am in the morning. And got ready by 7am and went on for the further journey. The first place we visited this morning was the world’s highest cricket stadium. The view from here was awesome. But we were just that conducting matches over here for T-20 is not possible as the stadium is very small for 20-20 match. After clicking some pics from here we went on with the journey. The scenery from here to palampur was really awesome. Palampur is famous for its picturesque and snow clad mountains of dhalaudhar ranges and tea gardens. There are also some pleasant walks around the town. Firstly we went to the Neugal park there were awesome cold winds and had a pleasant view nearby. And we went to see whats there in the backside as there was a way going over there downside. We were going ,going and going on that way and suddenly i stopped as i spotted something unusual thing over there . A foul smell was coming from there it was like a man might be some animal don’t know exactly what it was as i didn’t see the face of that thing there was a dead cat n dead squirrels lying with it and smoke coming from there and we just ran away from there like anything. The funniest part of it was when i first saw just a glimpse of that thing i thought there’s a couple smooching and told Nik’s about it and Nikhil also came with me. And then we saw the real thing we were terrfied. Sheeshpal also started to run in the backward direction without asking what happened. After getting back to the cafe we got some pics clicked again.

And then we were suppose to leave for few kilometres ahead for Bundla chasm which falls over a 100 metres to the Bundla stream. But there was some work going over there and the stream was closed for sometime. This is known as small banana big banana will come after some time....lol . Then we had our breakfast in some dhaba and after that went on to see the tea plantation and manufacturing. Then guess whats our next destination could have been . It was a mini zoo as robin was dying to go to it. We headed for there . We had a stop in between where we found a beautiful place to hangout our whole day but No Robin had to see a zoo ... So instead of spending time here we went to see the ZOO with robin travelled for about 15 kms to see and asking people about the directions. Everyone told us the right directions. People are so generous over here . We reached the zoo and then came to know its closed on Mondays . Everyone told the directions but no one mentioned about this thing. This is known as Big Banana .

We took some coke bottles ,glasses and bingo with us and went back to the same place. It was something like the river. The water was fucking cold man. I wanted to take a bath in it but no one agreed . We went down there with the lapi and all the stuff... switched on the songs and started dancing after some pegs... Noone dared to take a bath in the river then i alone had to take out the clothes and go for it. Then Robin and Nikhil also came with me and in the end vikas also. That expierence was really amazing. The water was really making us freeze over there. Having drinks in that water with beautifull scenery around you is really amazing.

After spending 2-3 hours over there we went back to the Scorpio and headed back towards the Chandigarh . We visted Nangal division and Anandpursahib g on the way back to Chandigarh. We had pur dinner in Kurali and reached home by 1 am in the morning of 29th. All in all it was a wonderful trip with a set of completely new expierence with new friends.

My engineering life

Like hundreds of students who do engineering every year to fulfil their dream of making it big in life, I also came to the IET BHADDAL in JUNE 2004 with a similar objective but didn’t knew that what’s next there for me.

When i entered the college i didn’t knew that for what i am here. I just joined the engineering because one of my best friend also took the same stream in Rayat college. At that time i didn’t even knew that what the word ENGINEERING stands for.

The first day of my college I was very scared at that how the day will turn out to be. I had heard a lot about ragging those days but never experienced that before in my life . The way i used to hear about it from the people it really scared me up . On the first day of my college i was alone in the class as i was a lil introvert at that time and didn’t talked to people that much. On that day i made a friend who was a hosteller . He told me a lot about the ragging that day how they were ragged in hostel that thing scared me a lot. Thats why due to that i used to go to hostel for a week in the break time to just escape from the seniors in the day time. But how can u escape in the bus ......impossible.... finally seniors called me up in the bus at the backseat and started with my intro and all .. It was really fun while giving intro and all... they made me comfortable while taking and taking intro.. and believe me guys it really helped me to take out my fears related to ragging and i made many good friends . And then the time came when i used 2 rag our batchmate’s with my seniors when they came to knew that i am their batchmate only it was really funny.

Slowly i started interacting with my classmates and started making friends . In the first month we never mass bunked any lectures it just started with the second month when we were comfortable with the class and guess what who initiated the first mass bunk of our class....?.

Yes you are right it was me and my group......

But still the mass bunks were not the proper ones as you will always find out some papus in every class. We used to had lots of fun during those days i just miss those days like anything. We had a group of five friends me, bob , vikas, brijmohan and harmeek in college. Used to do lots of fun in the class. Without us the class was incomplete. The fun was so much that we never bothered about studying for exams.. and when the result came it was shown over there with 2 supplies in my first semester and it just continued till the end of my college life.... when we used 2 get a supply we only had one thing to say “ Koi na agli baar de denge ..” but woh agli vaar ptu wale bahut mushkil se dete hain...

We people were never bothered about the results till the placements started going on at that time we realized what we were doing....

We were always involved in the strikes, ragging, bunking , going out from the examination hall after half time gets over ,sometimes fights also...

Our batch was one the spunky batch of our college till now . It was involved in the maximum number of strikes and fights with teachers , juniors ,seniors , and strikes.

There was a time when we used to say with pride that i am DETAINED this semester , got supply in subjects , had PANGA with seniors e.t.c but now i realise what i was doing with my life.

I got some lovely friends from my college one of them is gaurav pratap my "suttamate ". He was also known as body builder of our batch . My smoking started with him only in the college. I shared my first sutta with him in the college. Guys u believe it or not cigarettes really bring people close 2 u if u smoke. They really make such a bond which u can’t imagine. I and gaurav also had a dream to make a name in college so that everyone knows us u can say that like a DJ in Rang De Basanti.... and we also accomplished our mission quite well.. We were always infront of strikes the strike leaders , fights, principal’s room , HOD ke room kea age peshi n all....

This line holds true for us “apne jaise DJ bhi is duniya ki bheed me aake piss gaye” after passing out from the college.

Our exams were used to be one night study game and we played really quite well to pass them... but still PTU gives u a gift in return ......

We used to dictate the whole exam to my friends from the books on phone but still we managed to get supply in that exam . This is why Punjab technical university is famous for .When Punjab and technical comes together ... you all know what happens .... all the products of PTU knows what sort of university is this....

4 years of engineering to be described in 1 blog is really a challenging task so i will sum up the things which i did in my engineering

Ø 1 st sutta of my life with my dear friend Gaurav Pratap(trying to quit this habit now)

Ø Attended lectures after getting high at tavern ...3 days we used 2 be high out in a week

Ø Ransacked the HOD room in the final year

Ø Ragging taking intros...

Ø Had bloody conflicts with our seniors till they got passed out

Ø Had fight with HOD on the trip to Rajasthan ... on the way back to college our HOD resigned

Ø Got detained in subjects in my fifth semester finally

Ø Blocked national highway in strikes

Ø Got suspended for a month

Ø Got detained in internal exams as well

Ø Involved in strikes from the first year

Ø Had given 19 exams in one semester

Ø The happiest moment when my maths 1 , maths 2 got cleared in 7^th semester

Ø Trip to Mumbai and Goa where almost everyone of us cried on some thing or the other

Ø Missed the final exams in third year as i was involved in partys and all at that time

Ø My souvenir tagline was “For him, the lect. ends before it begins. A talented guy with an evergreen smile, for him degree, job, %age, internal, supplies “sab moh maya hai.” Loves the song “sutta“... Lives his life in his own style with some unique set of rules. Na kehna to isne sikha hi nahi always there to help ...a complete misogynist kind of a person. "

Guys does it go with me ........???? Any comments

That’s just a brief overview what i did in my engineering. You can well imagine what i was.... but time has the capability to change anyone same happened with me after i passed out from the college and i learned many things from my engineering

The first one is never give up just try, try, try and try . A day will come for what you were trying you will get that and at that time .You will realise the importance of the success in your life at that time.... you can take an example of me i tried a lot for clearing my supply exams for becoming an engineer .... when i was in my final semester i was waiting for the results but the result was not coming as it is always the case with PTU .. i was really tensed a lot ... Someone told me that results are out but were not given to college at that time..... They were lying with the university only... then i went to PTU KAPURTHALA on bike with my friend Bob . We reached the university by 4 pm in the evening and there was a long queue of students asking the results and i was last one standing there in the queue . The students who were asking the result there were almost failing in the exam.. I was so scared at that time when my number came and the guy sitting over there told me the that i cleared my exams. I was just so rhapsodic that i can’t even tell . Finally i became an engineer. At that time i called my dad and my best friend dipin and i couldn’t even speak i was just literally crying at that time.... dad asked what happened again a supply then i replied no i am finally an engineer now i can’t forget that day in my life...

U can say this as the pursuit of happiness in my life

I can just day that no matter what has happened to me , my past experiences have formed me into the person i am today.

I've learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you learned from them, and less to do with how many years you have lived.

Life is beautifull

Life is just a roller coaster just ride it.....

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or help you figure out who you are & or who you want to become You never know who these people may be (possibly your roommate, neighbor, professor, long lost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger), but when you close your eyes with them, you know at the very moment that they will affect your life in someway or the other and sometime things will happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, & unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming these obstacles that you would have never realized your true potential, strength, will power, or heart thats what i have learnt.....

Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by mean of good luck or by gods grace or with the lines on your hands....some1 has truly said that people without hands still have their destiny........ Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness & sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without this small test, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. It would be safe & comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless............

The people that you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you will become Even the bad experiences are learned from. In fact, they are the most touching ones........ atleast in mine case they are which i will never be able to forget :( ..............

If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart...... thats how the life has to move on with the enrichment of your experience.................

If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but
because in a way, they are teaching you to love & how to open your heart & eyes to things.

Make everyday count. Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything you could possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before & actually listen... Let yourself fall in love again, break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right too.........

Tell yourself that you are a great individual and believe in yourself. For if you don't believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you. You can make your life anything you wish.....Create your own life & then go out and live it with absolutely NO REGRETS. Most importantly, if you love someone tell him or her, for you NEVER know what tomorrow may have in store. And learn a lesson in life each day you live.
Today is the tomorrow you were worried about yesterday.... Was it worth it?

" Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who don't and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said that it'd be easy, they just promised it would be worth it "

"Life is as colourfull as this blog just enjoy all the colours of your life ....."

Never be depressed just move on with the time life is too short to enjoy... just live every moment of the life and have fun always......

My motto for life is " DrEaM aS iF yOu'LL LivE foReVer, LiVe As iF yOu'LL dIe tOdAy.”

Keep smiling always :) :):) :):) :):) :):) and Rock on \ /

Signing oFF
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